Vaginismus Books

Having read the book and gone through the treatment for vaginismus with Ditza and Ross, I must say that although reading the book will help you to feel that you are not alone in this anymore, you will still need to go through the treatment and believe me it is a though one!!!! I feel sorry for people who do not finish the treatment because although I can understand them ( you will feel like walking out many times during the treatment)they will be missing on a life time chance to get rid of vaginismus once and for all and getting to know two of the most wonderful and caring people I have ever encountered in my entire life who will go out of their way to help you even when it is not job related.
And yes they may call you a wimp and this will be one of the softest words they could use but as to call this method "horrible" ?,get to the end and then judge that !!!
Would anyone argue the "horrible" methods a drug or alcohol therapist uses? or the prices they charge? I don't think so, if it solves the problem you and your partner if you have one or any future one won't care! So if you are thinking about booking the treatment with them I can not advice you enough.
Finish it no matter how hard it is ! remember it's hands on!and be proud of yourself!!!
Well done Ditza & Ross. I love you

Oh by the way, I only gave 4 stars to the book because even do the book is good in the sense that you will feel very emotional about it because it touches something really intimate and deep inside you, I believe their treatment is a million times better!!!!

This book was just what my wife needed before the holiday. Yes, it is filled with testimonials of patients who have been to WTC, but isn't that just we need to hear...about people who got well. Living with vaginismus and going from doctor to doctor who knows nothing about vaginismus has been devastating to us. We have lived silently with this problem for 8 years. Now we feel as though we "know" people who have suffered as we have.
Right in the beginning the authors let you know this is not a self help book. I read the book at the request of my wife and I am so happy that I did. The chapter dedicated to the partners made me feel I am not alone nor am I the only one who has "stuck it out"!!!!!! This book is not about going to the WTC, but rather about caring, compassion and hope for vaginismus sufferers.
I urge anyone who lives with vaginismus or knows someone who does to read this book. I feel much better knowing I am not alone...as I see it the goal of this book!

I have started to research these types of books as I have vestibulodynia. I got over the vaginismus by muddling through. It was 23 years before I was diagnosed, and it seems women in the US have had it worse than me because doctors found out about them and started to make their lives an even worse misery. I live with dyspareunia and I have lots of sex but not intercourse. Stop being a victim, it is doctors doing this to you. Guys love BJs. You can have a great sex life. Try alt.com and meet up with guys who don't want intercourse for whatever reason. There's a better world out there than these endless treatments. libberty@hotmail.co.uk

The book focuses more on the dyspareunia associated with Vaginismus rather than as a separate pain issue, so I was disappointed as the title suggests the book deals with pain in general. Expensive mistake to make! However, for those who do suffer with Vaginismus this is a good way forward to treatment and possible cure. Didn't help me though, different pain issues.

I got "Private Pain" from Amazon.com yesterday and was very excited, until I started reading it. The whole book consists of two things:
- basic information, available for free on the internet
- personal stories, all of which go, "My life was awful, I went to WTC, now my life is perfect"

If you know nothing about vaginismus, I guess you could find the
basic factual information helpful, since it's gathered conveniently in one place. If you've Googled "vaginismus", you won't learn anything new.

And the stories made me feel frankly depressed, because I will never get the kind of money I need to travel to New York and stay there for weeks, never mind paying for the actual treatment. And I got the feeling from the book that WTC is the one and only solution that works. So I am feeling completely hopeless -- and we all know that your feelings about this affect how your body acts, as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Anyway, I am sorry I wasted my money on a 200-page ad for WTC, and I just wanted to warn others. I can't comment on the efficiency of the WTC method, I just feel cheated by the book.

no matter how many psychology and medical definitions about vaginismus i read, nothing comes close to this through explanation through personal experience, the author uses herself and other peoples stories to make us understand exactly what it is, and most importantly that there is always hope.

I lived with vaginal pain till my mid 20s when I discovered that physical therapy, specifically pelvic pain myofascial physical therapy could and did heal my pain. so my years of thinking it was all in my head were wrong. What I had was vestibulitis, vulvodynia and muscle spasms.
Please google Rhona Kotarinos for more information.

I lived with vaginismus up until I was 34 (I am now 35) and I cant imagine that reading a book alone can REALLY help you. For the reviewer who claims that the great women at the Womens Therapy Center are a joke, I dont think you know what youre talking about. They helped me and so many other women overcome this condition, they truly saved my life, and I'm sure I can speak for the other women Ive met there who have said the same. Most women that suffer and have suffered from vaginismus understand that its impossible to "cure" yourself. The women at WTC know what they are doing and they are educated, kind, incredible women. Im sorry that you feel that they are a "joke", it seems that you have looked for answers on this condition for a long time, trust me they have the answers. I wish you luck.

I have been trying to get hold of ANY of Ms Valins books for over a year and a half,does ANYONE know where I can obtain them? I live in Japan and cannot get treatment for this "illness", it has lead to bouts of depression. Please advise me on how to obtain any of her material. Thank-you, from one woman to another.

THANK YOU for this book...!

Hope it goes back in print soon!!

It's not a blatant self-promotional tool like the other one put out by the "clinicians" (SOCIAL WORKERS ONLY) at the WTC. What a joke!